Happy New Year to everyone. For quite some days I was wondering about what would be my resolutions in 2019. I am done with the dieting plans, done with exercising promises, done with meet up the deadlines, unable to save and also fails to keep everybody happy all the time. So, basically, I am done with all those disciplinary actions that I promised to myself on earlier years, and still not be able to keep up with them. I am sure many unfortunate souls have the same situation. So, I was thinking why should I follow all these disciplines which are not meant to be syncing with me and then regretting the rest of the year because I couldn’t follow it. Have I become the world’s most disorganized person? If I am not be able to take care of my routine how would I plan to take care of my family and my life? I felt guilty, frustrated even. Then, after cornering myself with these upsetting thoughts, I started to search for the best resolution that I can actually follow in 2019. And I have found it. My resolution is –A stress-free year.
To live a stressfree, ease out, a productive and relaxing lifestyle I want to concentrate on 3 Golden Rules- ACCEPTANCE, ENJOYMENT, INNOVATIONS.
When things are not according to our way, we can become frustrated, irritated and stressed out, then the need for ACCEPTANCE comes, it is a smarter way to deal the situation rather being defensive. A good example is, I often get stressed out on my time management skills. When I realized that I could not finish all of my dues in a day or a week, I become very frustrated, but being so much worried on not be able to complete tasks, if I can focus on the tasks that are already completed and accept that, these are all I can do in a day, and those things I can’t do, I can do it later or manage them in time accordingly, will definitely ease out my stress. I think this is the hardest step, to accept the situation and let go all the rules.
The next step is a little easier, ENJOYMENT– when I already accepted the crisis, then half of my stress is already gone. And to make it more sync with me, if I start to enjoy the situation, that will be a great help. Often, I get stressed out about my messy rooms. My toddler often plays with my kitchen stuff and loves to create a big pile of toy mess around the house. So, earlier I keep cleaning them and he used to mess around again, again I cleaned them, so it was going on a loop, and become so intolerable, but now, I started to learn that instead of getting the rooms clean again and again, if I start playing with him with those stuff and maybe sometimes, even pretend to play with him, then, slowly showing him how to keep the toys in the toy storages, then he also gets interested, he wants to be involved, in that way we both can spend some fun time together.
Now comes the third step, to make it more like me, to make the situation fully in harmonious with me, to make my enthusiasm more sustainable, I need to put my best efforts, my INNOVATIONS, my creativity. Like, to help with my elder one with her homework, I often opt for fun and different ways, or just give little twists in my daily cooking, or give my rooms a new look with decorative stuffs, do more DIYs, all these can make the everyday boring, not so challenging tasks, more accepting, more enjoyable.
And after all these, even so, the situation is giving me intense stress, then it is time to give up, then I need to get away or change the situation. Not to feel guilty or regret, because I would know I already have given my best efforts.
To sum it up, this year I want to focus on more positive, productive, and enjoyable lifestyle.
I will keep an active life and put enough efforts to make my days fun and productive.
I will keep entertained myself with good reads and creativities that I want to do.
Every day I will do my breathing exercise and write my thoughts on my journal.
I will try to be more empathetic and try to understand my family’s needs.
I will find my ME TIME and do those pieces of stuff that I wanted to do for very long.
I will adjust my expenses according to my savings. and I will cherish all those things that I already have.
I will avoid all those people, who give me a negative vibe and keep my friends close.
I will do more traveling and I will keep remembering myself about all the good memories that I have and be grateful.
Let’s make this New Year a time to celebrate life, the time to achieve new goals, time to be the best of you.